The Best Pickup Artists in the World
There are tons of "gurus" out there espousing to be pickup artists, puas, don juans, masters of seduction etc. I am fortunate enough to have met a TON of these guys. I have met and seen in field BOTH of this years #1 pickup artists. Actually there are three "official" top ten pickup artist lists out there and I have been in the club talking to ladies with all three of these guys.
Fortunately all three of them are actually really good with women.
But there are a TON of shysters out there. If you guys were reading my posts about a year ago when I was in Vegas, I met a TON of fake coaches. These guys were taking thousands of dollars from unsuspecting students and felt nothing bad about it. To me this is both shocking and unacceptable. Everytime I meet a guy who teaches dating, pickup or whatever fancy name they want to give it, I say the same thing – show me.
I have to see it in action to believe it. I have been on the receiving end of this dozens of times. I have had students give me all sorts of challenges. Usually, it's something I have never done before. But if I'm on the clock, then I always do it. I think it's important to practice what you preach.
But what do you do if you can't see these guys in person?
Right now only a small number of guys even use their real images, let alone video. I try to post majority real pictures. Of course protecting the privacy of the women I meet is important, so I do try to balance that out. It's important for you guys to see that I'm a real person. The more you believe me, the more you will trust me and try what I tell you.
But let's say you are reading an ebook but one of the hundreds of dating ebook authors, and I hope it's by one of the dozens that actually knows what he's talking about. How can you know what will work and what doesn't?
Be a Scientist
You should see learning dating as both an art and a science. I really think of it as a craft. Because there is a lot to it. Just like making pottery has the facts – the temperatures at which clay dries and hardens, how long before a kiln overheats an object etc, it also has an art to it – making the piece both beautiful and functional. Being a pickup artist is about knowing the odds and also about reacting to the situation.
The best way to learn what works and what doens't is to test, test and test!
Don't just blindly follow whichever guru you currently support. Whether it's your favorite big name pickup artist or just your favorite poster on a forum, you need to try it for yourself.
The reason I got so good at pickup and teaching it so fast, is that I will try ANYTHING. I am always looking for new techniques. And the experimenting never stops. Even the best guys in the world are constantly changing and adapting their game. Everyone is always looking to improve themselves.
If you have seen a lot of my pictures, you may have noticed that lately I rock a beard constantly. It all started almost 2 years ago when my roomate in London, Ghost, told me I look better with a beard. I hadn't shaved in 3 days, so I just kept not shaving. Today is the last day of November. So I shaved my beard off. It felt so weird. But I'm curious to see how people react differently.
I have gamed with a dozen haircuts, from 50s rocker to my current diagonal mohawk. For my next look I am going to model the lead singer of Tokio Hotel. I love that huge badass do. And I will see how the women react to it.
It's like Karate
When I was in high school I studied Tae Kwon Do. I learned everything there is to know about kicking. The first time I lived in Japan I studied karate. I realized I knew nothing about punching. At my school they broke the punch down into dozens of tiny steps. All of them are important and can totally change how hard you hit.
You should definitely start off with just one style of pickup. Don't read fifty ebooks. It's too much information. But once you have your base style down, then you can start trying and testing new things.
My game right now is about 90% different from what it was a year ago. I have changed where I live, how old I am, my career, my hairstyle etc. As I change my game should change.
You are not me. I am one of a kind. So are you. You are older or younger, shorter or taller, skinnier or fatter. So your game should reflect your individuality. Try lots of things and see what happens. As long as you treat it as an experiment you can separate it from your emotions. It's ok to completely change it up and it's also ok to go back to something that worked better.
Don't be a Keyboard Jockey
99% of guys in pickup never succeed. They spend their lives on forums and reading what other guys have tried. They then regurgitate this same information to new guys who don't know any better.
When I started in pickup I tried a LOT of things I read on free forums. I quickly discovered that you get what you pay for. I tried experiment after experiment and I couldn't replicate their results. The first thing field testing taught me to do was spend very little time on forums. You learn it all out in the field.
Who reads a book about swimming and then jumps off a boat into the ocean. Knowing information in your head is not the same as knowing it works in your heart.
So please take everything with a grain of salt. Even the stuff I teach. Because just because it works for me doesn't mean it works for you. And if it does work for you, then that's even better.