I know the reason why you don’t know how to attract women and don’t know how to get a girlfriend

It’s probably because you don’t know how to talk to women or something related.  So now your sitting here on the internet asking yourself “How can I get a girlfriend?“  I understand.  It’s ok.  I asked myself the same question a few years ago.  Now I am a professional dating coach and I have the answer.

The majority of dating is inside your head.  If you walk up to a woman thinking that she can fix some part of your life, well that is destined for failure.  Girls want to be an ADDITION to your life, not a solution. So let’s start by creating the foundation of a man women want to be with.  Once you know who you really are it’s much easier to figure out what you want in a woman.  Too many people work really hard to get a girlfriend and then realize she’s not the woman they want.  So let’s avoid that up front.

How to get a girlfriend part 1 – Know Thyself

Confidence.  There is nothing more important than believing in yourself.  Have you ever dated someone who you thought was amazing, but they felt like they didn’t deserve you?  This destroys every relationship.  The moment a girl asks me why I picked her or says she doesn’t deserve me, I know the relationship is doomed.  Whether it’s been a few months or just a few drinks.  Relationships can only endure if they are equal.  So if you have low self confidence, you will only get women who have low self confidence.  And guess what?  They are the women that cheat the most.  Not because they are sinister or evil, but because they need constant affirmation.

It’s easy to say BE CONFIDENT and you will get a girlfriend.  I know that.  What’s hard is telling you exactly how to become more confident, bit I am going to do it.  If you actually follow my instructions you will change your life – fast.  You need to sit down and make a list.  I want you to make a list of things you have always wanted to do but haven’t for some reason.  And I want you to make a list of things you are afraid of.  Whether this list has 10 items or 100 doesn’t really matter.  There are benefits to going in either direction.  Once you have this list your job is to set up a time frame for crossing them all off of that list.

I make my list at the beginning of each year.  I have set all sorts of goals.  From walking up to 2000 women in bars and starting a conversation to getting offered a job as a dating coach by a major company.  I set goals that have to do with business and my personal life.  Just every aspect.  Now I don’t hit every goal.  But I hit a lot of them.  This year my goals were all about business.  I wanted to work for myself and make a certain amount of money.  Right now I have hit one target and tomorrow I’m re-negotiating a contract that will give me the second.  By writing it down and telling people in my life I created accountability.  If you look at the top of this website there is a link called goals.  I list and cross off all of my goals every year.  In a public place.

As far as facing your fears.  This is how you become stronger as a person and become the man who can get a girlfriend.  Iron sharpens iron.  You want to make a knife sharp you don’t put it in a river, you use a strong stone.  I am really afraid of heights.  Well actually I am way less than I used to be.  I have climbed mountains alone to face this fear.  I push myself to the edge.  When you are alone facing a real danger it’s where you find out exactly who you are.  Last year I spent a few hours being interrogated in a 3rd world country.  I was in deep.  But guess what? I stuck to my guns and got out of it.  And the girl I was with.  Because I know what it’s like to be afraid.  And I still act.

You want to know the ultimate secret? How to get a girlfriend?  It’s this.  Women are only looking for one thing.  Every single thing I will teach you boils down to this.  Women are looking for a guy who can handle it IF…..

They want a guy who can handle it IF their home gets robbed.  IF he loses his job.  IF she gets pregnant.  IF they lose a child…..

That’s what emotional security boils down to.  It’s why women are attracted to criminals.  They are survivors and they aren’t afraid of danger or trouble.

So carve yourself out of wood.  Learn to be confident in ALL of your life.

How to get a girlfriend Part 2 – Tell the Truth

It sounds so obvious.  But most people lie.

If you have feeling for a girl you should tell her when they happen.  Playing games and dancing around it is weak.  Guys who play games are not men.  They are boys.

When I am attracted to a woman I tell her instantly.  I don’t wait 6 months to become her best friend and then listen to all of her secrets.  I meet so many girls who have a guy in their lives that is trying this strategy.

These guys always get to watch me or some other dude hook up with their dream girl.  And I know what I am talking about because I used to be that dude.  Before I found myself I let women walk all over me.  I hid my feelings and that lie created a terrible situation.

There are a lot more layers, but this lesson is about keeping it SIMPLE.  It doesn’t have to be hard to meet women.  Most other gurus and dating coaches will tell you that is has to be complicated.  Maybe you want a complicated solution.  I’m sorry but I am not going to lie to you brother.  If you really work on parts 1 and 2 then the final step is EASY.

How to get a girlfriend Part 3 – Ask her out

It always amazed me how many guys have never asked a girl out.  If you don’t ask how are you going to get a girlfriend?

I ask out tons of girls.  And the truth is that plenty of them say no.  I just don’t care.  I don’t want to earn a girl’s attraction.  I know who I am and I’m not interested in a girl who doesn’t see what makes me amazing.  In later lessons I will go into detail on how to ask a woman out, but for now keep it simple.

Just ask a girl to a situation where you are powerful.  Bring her to your home bar or a club where everyone knows you.  Don’t take her to an awkward expensive dinner.  It doesn’t work.  It’s not real life and it’s a horrible first date.  You want to go somewhere that you are comfortable.  I usually ask a girl to come for drinks at the bar closest to my home.  Or I take a girl to fly kites at the park.  I want somewhere that she is comfortable where there is a possibility of kissing.  To learn about the kissing guide, just sign up for my mailing list and you get a free copy of my HUGE guide to getting a first kiss.

This is how you get a girlfriend.

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